Humans are creatures of habit, and sometimes repeat behaviors
Humans are creatures of habit, and sometimes repeat behaviors to make up for the falls of their previous ones. In psychology this is called repetition compulsion, and it essentially means you're trying to fix the past by pursuing similar situations or people who once hurt you. But for those willing to put in the work, there is an attachment style called "earned secure," Morehead said. Morehead said there's often a stigma that these patterns people learn between the ages of zero to five are unchangeable. But she believes in the "neuro-plasticity" of the brain to be rewired. "Beliefs are able to be healed as long as we are like really intentional about how we do that," she said. "You can heal yourself and you're not doomed if you did have a disorganized, avoidant, or anxious attachment. You can heal that and change that for yourself."